Thursday, September 8, 2011

What I think I have in common with you

I think we have a lot more in common than we realize.
I think we both have struggles. I think the things I struggle with may be different than the things you struggle with, but I believe that both you and I have something we have a hard time with in our lives. I am not going to say that my struggle is any harder than yours, or vice versa. But I think we both have a struggle in our lives.
I think you feel good when someone that you care about reciprocates those feelings. I think we have that in common. I think you want someone to be with, even till 'the end.' I think you don't want to be alone, even though you still want time to yourself. I want you to know that I care about you, and I want to be here for you, even though you may not feel the same to me. I don't expect everyone to reciprocate those feelings, but it still hurts when a friend isn't there for me.
And I think you feel that hurt as well. I think we have both had times in our lives when we dearly wanted someone to talk to, but either that person was not there, or you did not know who 'that person' was.
I think we both know friends who are hurting. I think we both want to help those friends, but sometimes we don't know how. I think there have been times when we would have liked to take even some of their pain in order to ease theirs.
I think we have both had at least one point in our lives when we were upset at a friend for something they did, either to us or to themselves. I think we have both been at the point where we want to rant at a friend for the decisions they have made. I think we have both wanted to show where they took a wrong turn and how to get back to a good road.

I think we both want more in our lives, if we are honest. I think we want to do more with what we have been given, or maybe just more hours in the day. I think we both long for intimacy, but are also scared of the vulnerability that requires. I think we both have walls that have been built up, but will be torn down (or scaled) by the one person we are meant to be with.

I think we have more in common than we think. And I think we have more in common with the rest of humanity than we realize.

I think we are all human before we are America, Asian, European, or anything else related to country. I think we are human before we are smart, poor, talented, tall, or well-dressed. I think we need each other more than we realize.

What do you think?


  1. Discussion to come from this: but in general, I agree. :) Although that seems to be a general rule between us. Great thoughts!!

  2. I think you are a wise person and that if people started with the commonality instead of the division, the entire world would be a better place.

  3. this is beautiful. :) i'm a fan. everyone is human, everyone is a child of God. He gave us struggles in common and wants & needs in common, and he gave us each other so we can be encouraged and have a hug when we need this. Nick Miller, just the fact that you think about other people so much and care so much about their struggles and want to ease their pain or dole out hugs continuously, that makes you a great person, and i am seriously privileged to be your friend. that's the thing tho. you don't make "being Nick's friend" a privilege. you make it available to err'body. HOW NICE OF YOU. :) i'm in kind of a good mood. it's weird. good blog. I'm a fan.